a life less gay(.com)

So the chat site known as Gay.Com has undergone a mutation and an upgrade this week, which means that the "back door" means to use it, Chat Client, no longer works. Users now have to interface through the main webpage and open chat windows from there; an experience I never really enjoyed before, hence using Chat Client as a means to avoid Gay.Com's screen-sized porn ads and other nonsense they had cluttering up the viewable area. With Chat Client not aligned with the new site, I find myself not willing to endure all that again and thus I am not logging on or using.

And I don't miss it. At all.

I went cold turkey off gay.com several times in the past when I felt like it was becoming an underhwelming experience replete with the same fellow chatters all saying the same things and looking for the same instant gratification, so to be away from it again won't be new territory for me. However, I took the plunge the other day and tried out PlentyOfFish.com just to see, figuring maybe there was a new breed to men out there who were tired of the same and might be raising their game a bit. I suppose this was me wondering if maybe, just maybe, there was a potential relationship out there for me.

I was kinda wrong. Sure I saw some new faced on there but bookending them were all the same ones from before, and surprise surprise they all wanted the same things as they always did. I got a few messages from a few new ones but the same theme started to work its way into the emails I got over the last two days: hey dude let's hook up. I put myself out there and spelled out what I am looking for, who I am and what things really make my world go round; I thought there's no way a good man with a serious approach to dating can miss this. He has yet to arrive, but in the meantime I've got men way too young looking to hook up, bi guys looking to hook up, and people just plain looking to hook up.

So much for that approach.

I'm going to leave it for a bit and come back to it later, just to see how things evolve over a few weeks, but if it's all the same I'll be pushing the "delete" button and walking away.

Let's face it though, a guy working nights has very few opportunities to meet people, so the cyber world is a handy tool for initial contact. But I'm ready to forgo that and go back to the basics of just going out and being out there and running into (hopefully) interesting people where our lives intersect naturally. It might take a while but it's been so long since I tried that it might seem interesting again for a few minutes.

And now I have to get ready for work.

That is all.